Love as Effacement of Self

Rabia spoke of becoming a veil between herself and God, dissolving the boundaries of individual desire. This concept illuminates favoritism as a symptom of ego—the self that insists certain people matter more, deserve more, belong more. When we remain attached to personal preferences and hierarchies, we inevitably favor those who reflect our image, validate our choices, or serve our agenda. The cost is profound: we cannot see others truly; we see only projections. Through Rabia's path of effacement, we recognize that favoritism requires a persistent, defended self that measures worth and distributes belonging selectively. As we practice self-dissolution—not through denial but through love that extends beyond our preferences—favoritism loses its grip. We discover that legacy and community strengthen precisely when no one is hoarding preference, when belonging is not scarce but generated by hearts surrendered to something larger than individual claim.