Talk it through with Aurelius
How do I give feedback that actually lands?
You have something to say to someone and every version in your head sounds either brutal or so softened that it says nothing. So you keep not saying it, and it keeps happening.
◆ How this problem reads on the two dials
GuidanceKnowledge
1:1 with AureliusWith others (a Pod)
CRAFT. Behaviour-effect-ask is a knowable form, the timing rules are knowable, and the reaction is predictable. A manager who is fully self-aware but has never been taught the structure still delivers a verdict.
How the two dials adapt to you →What’s really going on
The problem is usually the form, not your nerve. Three parts in a fixed order, said within days rather than saved up, and then the hard bit — letting the silence sit.
🔒 What you’ll build togetherUnlock by starting
KnowledgeBehaviour, effect, ask
KnowledgeWhen to say it, and what to do with the reaction
A moveNotice what you are protecting by not saying it. Usually your comfort, sometimes theirs.
What changes unlock by starting
- You can separate the behaviour from your judgement of the person.
- You say it within days rather than saving it for a review.
- You can hold the first minute after it lands without softening it away.
One object, two jobs: a public answer to a real problem, and — the moment you start the chat — Aurelius’s live plan for your version of it.