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I'm there at the most critical moments of someone's breath, and the responsibility is enormous while the recognition is almost none.

Part of the pattern: Accept Feedback Without Getting Defensive
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A single piece of criticism can keep me up at night, replaying the moment and everything I should have said. The feedback itself might have been minor, but my mind treats it like a wound to be reopened until dawn.A small piece of feedback sends me into a complete overhaul — I tear the whole thing down and rebuild far beyond what was asked. I cannot take a minor note as minor; it becomes evidence that everything must be wrong.Any criticism of my work feels like confirmation that I'm fundamentally not good enough.Critical feedback sends me into a period of self-doubt that can last days. The feedback itself might be small. The recovery period is disproportionate and getting longer.Critical feedback takes me a long time to absorb. In the week after receiving it I am defensive, then slowly open, then eventually grateful. The cycle is too long and too costly.Criticism crushes me and I get defensive.

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