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If something happened to me, who could get into my accounts?

You keep many doors in your life, each with its own key. Think of your bank, your email, your photos, the small subscription that quietly takes your money each month. If you fell silent tomorrow, no one could open these doors. Not because you hid them on purpose. Only because you never wrote down where the keys are kept. This is not a technology problem. It is a trust problem dressed as a technology problem. The block of wood does not need carving to be useful. Your digital life does not need a hundred tools to be safe. It needs one honest list, and one person who knows where to find it. If thinking about this stirs up more than you expected — fear, grief, avoidance — that is natural too. Talk with someone you trust, or a professional who helps with these things. This page will help with the practical part: the list, the place, the person.

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What’s really going on

The river does not carry a map. It only flows. Prepare one clear path now — a list, a place, a person — so those who love you are not left digging in the dark. Not complexity. Not a vault of secrets. One simple channel, open and known.

🔒 What you’ll build togetherUnlock by starting
A moveWrite one list today: every account, every subscription, no exceptions.
A moveChoose one trusted person. Tell them where the list lives — not what is on it.
A movePut the list in one place — a password manager's emergency access, a sealed letter, a lawyer's file. Pick one, not five.
A moveSet a date, three months out, to update the list. Put it in your calendar now.
A moveTell your trusted person today, in one sentence, that this exists.

What changes unlock by starting

  • A single, current list of your accounts and how to access them.
  • One person who can find that list without guessing.
  • Less quiet worry about 'what if,' because the gap is closed.
  • A habit of updating it, so it stays true instead of stale.

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